Depression is more than just a bad mood or fatigue. It’s a complex, emotional, and physical condition that impacts every part of a person's life. And while it can be painful, sometimes depression paves the way for deep inner transformation.
Three Major Signs of Depression
1. Loss of MoodA person with depression no longer experiences joy, interest, or hope. Everything appears dark, tragic, and hopeless. Even everyday things feel threatening or meaningless.2. Internal BlockageThis symptom affects all aspects of life — interpersonal, emotional, psychological, and physical. It is expressed through:social withdrawal, lack of activity and motivation, overwhelming fatigue and loss of energy, disrupted sleep and appetite, decreased sexual desire, slowed thinking, attention, and memory.Even the smallest effort feels like climbing a mountain. The person loses their inner drive and vitality.3. Moral SufferingA deep sense of guilt, shame, and personal inadequacy emerges. There is often a painful belief that healing is impossible. This emotional pain can sometimes lead to suicidal thoughts — not always from a desire to die, but to finally find peace and “free others” from one’s presence.
Where Does Depression Come From?Sometimes depression appears suddenly, without a visible cause. I support the idea that its roots lie in unconscious, long-standing guilt, often formed in childhood.When a child doesn’t receive love or emotional support from parents, they start to believe something is wrong with them:“I can’t make them happy,” “I don’t deserve their love.”This unconscious guilt persists into adulthood, influencing relationships and self-perception. For example, women who stay in abusive relationships may unconsciously believe they deserve punishment — a belief rooted in early emotional wounds.
Can Depression Be Healed? Yes, but not through fighting it or denying it. Healing begins with acknowledging its presence, accepting yourself, and doing the deep emotional work.Depression should not be numbed with alcohol, smoking, binge eating, or overworking. Instead, we must listen to what it wants to tell us. It often signals the need for renewal, reflection, and internal transformation. It is not the end — it may be the beginning.
Do You Need Medication?Yes — in critical phases: during severe insomnia, anorexia, or persistent suicidal ideation. Medications such as antidepressants, sedatives, and anxiolytics can be helpful short term.However, they don’t resolve the underlying causes and may even interfere with the deeper process of personal rebirth.
The Role of a PsychotherapistThe therapist’s role is to become a “good parent” — someone who offers safety, warmth, and unconditional support.The therapist helps the client build their own inner nurturing voice — one that protects, encourages, and loves — the kind that may have been missing in childhood.
How to Free Yourself from Guilt?Acknowledge it without resistance. Say: “Yes, I feel guilty.” Forgive yourself for what was done or left undone. Accept your mistakes without judgment. Your past does not define your worth.